Today (June 17) would have been my 9th wedding anniversary had I not gotten a divorce.
I have been thinking about this day for a while. Wondering how I would feel. Wondering if I would have a heavy heart. Wondering if I would get emotional.
So far, I'm Cool and the Gang. No misty eyes. No heavy heart. I am a bit introspective, however.
But had I still been married, I wonder how I would have celebrated.
My nephew and my neice celebrated their anniversary on the 15th.
To show his love and appreciation for his wife, he bought her 30 pairs of shoes and wrapped them in pink paper. He then invited friends to come out to celebrate and watch her face as she opened the shoes.
When he told me about his idea several months ago, I was totally shocked by his preparation and thoughtfulness. Well, he did buy her like 12 dozen, yep 144, roses when he proposed, so I really should not have been shocked.
What woman wouldn't be off the wall, and hanging from the chandalier happy, uh huh, hanging from the chandalier happy, if her husband or boyfriend did that.
While everyone's style isn't buying shoes and going all out, I think that people need to begin showing their love in small and big ways. I mean, why not. What do you have to lose?
I love romantic, thoughtful ideas so because I'm no longer married, I thought I would share ideas for couples to celebrate their love.
Slip a note in a purse or lunch bag or pocket that expresses your love.
"I hope your day is going OK so far."
"I wanted to sing a note but I thought I would leave you a note to say I love you."
"I love you because_________(fill in the blank).
Put love notes on the stairs in your home so that when he or she comes home from a rough day, the notes will help lighten the mood.
I recently told one of my gfs to make a trip to Ambiance and buy a nurse outfit. Her hubby had a minor surgery performed and I told her it would give him a big smile if she showed up with a tray of food or drink wearing a nurse outfit.
Every woman should have a French Maid outfit. Go get one and fix dinner, give a pedicure or clean up.
If you have kids, get a babysitter and spend an evening with your love.
On any given day, make him a hat that says King or Queen.
Fix him his fave drink when he gets home from work.
Send her flowers just because. Take her to a fave restaurant and open all doors for her, and then get in the habit of opening all doors for her all the time.
I'll never forget when I looked out the window and saw a co-worker sitting patiently in the car until her new hubby darted to her side of the car to open it for her. I smiled and it wasn't even for me.
If you know he drinks Motts apple juice, make sure your refrigerator has it. Don't run out. And then maybe give him a certificate that says Motts Apple Juice for a lifetime and sign your name.
Draw her bath water and light her favorite candle after she has had a stressful week at work.
Set up a spa in your living room.
Enroll in a massage class together, yea, I've always wanted to do that. And then heck, touch. There's power in touch.
So because I took a vow 9 years ago on this date, I want everyone who reads this blog to take a vow.
I____________(fill in the blank) promise to do something special for _________ (fill in blank with name of person you love.) Starting today, I will make a concerted effort to show in my words and my deeds my love every day. I will also be more affectionate because there is power in a gentle touch. Moreover, I will do small, thoughtful things. I will do big, thoughtful things. I will not let a misunderstanding or anger cause diviseness in our relationship. I will show my love. I will show my love. I will show my love from this day forward.
And don't break it!
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