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In today’s world of balancing so many things we seem to never have time to pick up the phone, call a friend or write a letter or even a card and yet these little things can really touch a life and make a difference.
I want to share a story that recently made me realize that what sometimes we don’t think is important is so important to someone else.
My name is Robbie Motter and I live in Menifee, CA. I also wear many hats; I am the Chair elect for the Menifee Valley Chamber of Commerce Board of Directors, represent NAFE the largest global women’s organization headquartered in New York (www.nafe.com) as their Western & Mid Atlantic Regional Coordinator, I run two NAFE networks in Southern CA, (www.wr.nafe.com, 2011/.2012 President of the GFWC Menifee/Sun City Woman’s Club and I am 77.
I like many want to do these things but find that I too never have lots of extra time especially when I get almost 1,000 emails daily and then all the other things I am committed to and love doing. I do send email cards, one of my favorites to use is http://llerrah.com and for birthdays I use http://www.birthdayalarm.com/ as both are very reasonable to sign up for, cheaper than buying cards and mailing them, but do not write letters much anymore or send written notes or cards, I use to do it a lot, and also use to have a friend create special poems for my friends and I would send those to them as well. When they received the letters or poems they always told me how much they loved getting communications from me, and always thanked me for doing it, but somehow that all stopped as computers came in and we could do e cards and emails.
Well recently, I was reminded just how important what we use to do is for the special people in our lives. I received a brown envelope in the mail. I thought it was an in kind donation letter and certificate as I was Chairing a Menifee Valley Chamber of Commerce event, but much to my surprise when I opened it, I found a hand written letter from a daughter of a women I met in Virginia the first day of school for 7th grade of my son Ed who was attending Linton Hall Military Academy in Bristow, VA. Also in line was this woman Kathleen Flood, her son Jordan and her daughter Lisa who like my daughter Lisa was very young at the time. My son Ed is now 55 years old...
The handwritten letter was from Kathleen’s daughter Lisa who told me that her mother had died recently and told me that she had been ill for a couple of years and died peacefully at home with her family all around her. In the letter also she wrote:
“My mother wanted me to send back to you what I have enclosed (which were letters and poems I had sent her that dated back to 1975) she treasured them and wanted you to know that.”
I saw Kathleen three years ago when I stopped in VA and DC on my way to a NAFE event in New York, but had not seen or talked to her since She told me then how much she loved the things I sent to her over the years, but I thought perhaps she was just being kind and never really realized just how much they meant to her, and I am sure others in the world collect letters and cards and save them and treasure them as well.
When I called the daughter to offer my sympathy she told me also that her mother even in her final week took the time to address the envelope to me, I thought about that and thought even in her pain she was thinking of me, wow that was something to really go within my soul and realize how some people treasures these things we do from our hearts for them..
In the envelope were letters and poems I had my friend Gail write specially for her. Also there was a Holiday poem my daughter Lisa wrote in 1985 who at the time was probably in junior high school, and signed both of our names to the poem in her handwriting so it was so profound to also see my daughters handwriting there. One of the letters I read I talked about my granddaughter Heather being born, Heather is now 29 years old, so that letter was 29 years old. Reading through those letters was like going back in time in my life as many of the things I had also forgotten
After reading through all those letters and the note her daughter Lisa wrote me I decided I would make time in my busy schedule to contact those that have been in my life for years that I have not taken the time to call. The first one I called that very day was my friend Gail who lives in Buena Park and who I had not seen or talked to since my 75th Birthday. Gail and I have been friends since 7th grade in. She was thrilled to hear my voice and she invited me to come as soon as I had time to spend the weekend with her and her husband.
Gail said :“Robbie even though we both get caught up in never seeming to have time to call or visit the love we have as friends is always in our hearts and when we do talk its like we were never apart” and that is so true for many of us and our friends.
What this has taught me is that perhaps we need to take another step and take the time to pick up the phone or drop a card and let that person know they are important as you just never know what an impact that could make on a life. So if there someone in your life that you have not talked to for awhile, pick up the phone and make that call today.
It just might make a difference.
Robbie Motter is a Marketing/PR Consultant, Certified National Speaker/.Coach, Author, weekly Radio Show Host on Diva Strategies for Success on Blog Talk Radio http://www.blogtalkradio.com/diva-weekly-strategies-for-success