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A Positive Attitude Can Get You Through Anything.
By Robbie Motter
In September 2012, I went to my doctor because I was having knee problems and when I saw her she gave me the referral to a knee specialist and she said to me “Robbie since I never see you much is there anything else bothering you?’ I am not a doctor so I said “Well its nothing but my left breast sort of hurts like when I use to have my period?” She gave me a referral for a mammogram and an ultrasound which I went and had figuring it would be nothing.
Well low and behold I got a call from her office to come in. I knew immediately that it probably was not positive as over the years when I would have tests they would just say everything is good, but this time they were asking me to come in soon.
Not long after I was called to have a biopsy and then the office called and said I needed to come back to see the doctor. They scheduled an appointment immediately which was unusual so I knew the news probably was not that good.
I can clearly remember the day. The doctor walked in and the expression on her face said it all. I never dreamed I would have Cancer; no one in my family had cancer. Since my mother died of a stroke and strokes ran in my family I thought that is was what I needed to get checked for. I cried and she cried and my friend was in the waiting room and as soon as she saw me she knew I had been crying. I said to her “It will be okay. Let’s go to our usual restaurant and have a glass of wine,” and so we did. Knowing I could not change whatever it was I made the decision to remain positive and do as I was told.
They set up a surgery immediately and I went to the Hospital for what I thought was just a lumpectomy (to cut the spot out on the breast) but when they did further x-rays they found there was another mass near the breast bone, so I said “Just take out the whole breast - its only a breast and I want the cancer gone, so with that being said, they did a Mastectomy.
I had to stay in the hospital that day. When I got home I was house bound for two days. On the third day I ran a board meeting for a Woman’s Club I was the President of, people could not believe I was out and about so quickly. My thinking was I did not want to stay home and feel sorry for myself I wanted to be out with my friends to keep me in a positive mode. That was surgery number one. Surgery number two was because they left too much scar tissue so I was sent to a plastic surgeon so he could fix it all, a day later I was driving and back on track. The third surgery was for a reduction on my right side, which I was thrilled about as for years I had big boobs and now I got to have smaller ones and even be able to go braless if I wanted to. To me that was a great gift. That was an in and out surgery and I went to lunch with my girlfriends on the way home, again I was home about a day or so.
Then it was time to stretch the area where the mastectomy was done and a mesh was put in. That surgery was I believe the most painful and I was out of it for three days, then again I was driving, running meetings and SHOWING UP everywhere. The next surgery was to put in an implant; another easy one. On the way home from the Surgical Center I again had lunch with the girls and I was home for about a day. The next one was to take the implant out as it was not working and start the skin stretching again, and now on June 21st will be the final surgery, and in the middle of all this they found they had to take my gall bladder out which they did in March. That by far was the hardest one as it knocked me down for a few days, but I flew to Virginia and rested at my daughters as I knew if I stayed home I would be out running and since it was not as easy to come back to normal from I felt I better listen to my body and rest and have a nice visit with my daughter and also it was my birthday so I got to spend it with her as well.
The great thing is I am now Cancer free, hopefully forever. I see the oncologist in August and from that visit I will see if that is totally the case.
Well, what I have learned is:
Don’t listen to anyone that had Breast Cancer as most of the stories will scare you, and know that everyone heals differently. Every one is amazed at what I did after each surgery but I believe it’s because I keep a positive mind and know that doing whatever it is I have to do is going to solve the problem and make me better.
Don’t always believe what they tell you, as they told me if you have a mastectomy the cancer won’t come back and yet two days after I had my mastectomy I walked in a cancer walk and met many women who had theirs come back. Just know whatever is to be will be and if it happens. Just deal with it and don’t panic. Just think positive and see yourself getting well.
Also, don’t believe that everyone gets a lump, that’s not totally true as I did not have a lump. My cancer was caused because I make too many hormones and estrogen which shocked me as I had a hysterectomy at age 35 and I am now 77, so I could not believe it. In fact the pills I have to take for five years are suppose to suppress that so I hope it does or the cancer will come back and if it does I will just deal with it. Also my mammogram showed nothing. It was the Ultra Sound that showed the cancer. So try and get your doctor to give you both so you know for sure that all is well.
My belief is I was selected because I was the woman who never went to the doctor and now I am speaking out to women with the message: “Don’t t be like me get your checkups” and “Don’t just get a mammogram ask your doctor for an ultrasound as well.” And, be sure to ask your doctor if you have Dense Breast because this does not show up on mammograms.
Since then, I meet over 10,000 women annually because of my work as NAFE Western & Mid Atlantic Regional Coordinator and I constantly share with them about getting their checkups and telling them not to be like me and several have written me as they did get tested, three were in stage 1 and 5 were in stage 4. They all thanked me for my story as it inspired them to get their tests. Lucky for me I was in stage 1. They also did a test to make sure I was not a gene carrier as I have two married daughters, it came back that I was not, so my daughters were very happy but that still does not mean they won’t get cancer; one out of every three women get cancer, so it is best to get tested, anyway.
I am grateful I was only in stage 1.I did not have to have Chemo or radiation and I think to myself, wow, if my knee had not been hurting I would still be walking around with cancer.
The moral of this story is getting your checkups, do not listen to others, stay positive and don’t wait for the treatment. If you have to lose the breast lose it, as it’s only a breast and I think it’s better to have a life. Stay positive and get those negative things out of your mind and those negative people out of your life, as the good lord above or whoever you pray to is there for YOU. I had everyone praying for me and it was the power of prayer and my positive attitude that healed me so quickly. As I said I have had ten surgeries since September 2012 and one more soon coming up. With each one I was only unable to do normal things for two days and it was more like one most of the time. People wanted to share their stories with me but I said “thank you I need to experience whatever it is I have to experience on my own.”
If you get a diagnosis that is not favorable know it’s not the end of the world, there are so many new and innovative things that can heal you so just step out of your comfort zone and do it and then when it’s over go have a good time and enjoy your life everyday.
Having Cancer has changed my life. Now I know it’s okay to say NO and I no longer put off things I want to do I just DO them. It’s, sad that we have to wait until something happens to make us wake up and live life for US. So my friends take each day, and live your life and if you have a bucket list of things you want to do start doing them.
I know that my journey is to help other women to get the message that it’s okay and they will be okay, and that stress kills you more, so don’t stress out just, take the steps on your way to recovery. I am doing everything and more that I did before and even though I had all those surgeries I refused to let it slow me down.
So go out into the world and take on the day to its fullest and remember share your story with others as it could save their life as well.
Robbie Motter is a Marketing/PR Consultant, Certified National Speaker/.Coach, Author, weekly Radio Show Host on Diva Strategies for Success on Blog Talk Radio http://www.blogtalkradio.com/diva-weekly-strategies-for-success